10 Phrases to say to kids instead of, "Hurry Up."

positive parenting Mar 15, 2023

Do you ever find yourself saying "hurry up" to your children when you're running late or trying to get things done? Do you notice how this phrase can create more stress and frustration for you and your children? Do you wish there was a better way to communicate with your children and help them get ready without nagging or yelling?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this blog post is for you. In this post, I will share with you ten positive parenting phrases to say instead of "hurry up" that can help you communicate better with your children and reduce stress and frustration. These phrases are based on the principles of positive parenting, which is a parenting style that focuses on building a strong and respectful relationship with your children rather than using punishment or rewards. Positive Parenting encourages your children to develop self-confidence, empathy, responsibility, and cooperation.

By using these positive parenting phrases instead of "hurry up", you can:

  • Show respect and empathy for your child's needs and feelings
  • Give your child a sense of control and autonomy
  • Offer your support and assistance
  • Praise your child's effort and creativity
  • Give your child a choice and a clear expectation
  • Validate your child's feelings and challenges
  • Invite your child to problem-solve with you
  • Set a gentle reminder and a boundary
  •  Compliment your child's skills and abilities
  • Encourage your child to be organized and prepared
  • Express your affection and enthusiasm
  • Motivate your child to complete their task
  • Reinforce your bond and connection with your child
  • Inspire your child to value their time and experiences

So let's get started with the ten positive parenting phrases to say instead of "hurry up". These phrases are:

1. "Let's get ready at a pace that works for both of us." This phrase shows that you respect your child's needs and feelings and that you are willing to compromise and work together.

2. "We have to leave in 10 minutes. What do you need to do before we go?" This phrase helps your child plan ahead, prioritize their tasks, and gives them a sense of control and autonomy.

3. "I know you're having fun, but it's time to get ready. How can I help you?" This phrase acknowledges your child's emotions and interests and also offers your support and assistance.

4. "I see that you're working hard on your drawing. Can you finish it in ten minutes, or do you want to save it for later?" This phrase praises your child's effort and creativity, and also gives them a choice and a clear expectation.

5. "I understand that you're feeling frustrated. What can we do to make this easier?" This phrase validates your child's feelings and challenges and invites them to problem-solve with you.

6. "I can see you're taking your time, that's okay. Let's plan to leave in 5 minutes." This phrase respects your child's pace and preferences, and also sets a gentle reminder and a boundary.

7. "I appreciate your attention to detail. Let's make sure we have everything we need before we leave." This phrase compliments your child's skills and abilities and encourages them to be organized and prepared.

8. "I'm excited to spend time with you, but we need to leave soon. Can you finish up what you're doing?" This phrase expresses your affection and enthusiasm and motivates your child to complete their task.

9. "What can we do to help you get ready more quickly?" This phrase shows that you are on your child's side and that you are willing to cooperate and collaborate.

10. "I love spending time with you, let's make sure we have enough time to enjoy our activities together." This phrase reinforces your bond and connection with your child and inspires them to value their time and experiences.

 By using these phrases, you can communicate better with your children and reduce stress and frustration. You can also build a strong and respectful relationship with your children, and help them develop self-confidence, empathy, responsibility, and cooperation.

Try these phrases out in your daily life and see how they work for you. You might be surprised by how much difference they can make in your mornings or transitions. Remember, positive parenting is not about being perfect or never making mistakes. It's about being mindful, intentional, and respectful in your interactions with your children.